When planning a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, social media is an invaluable tool. Social media is an excellent place for parents to look for advice, find vendors or seek inspiration for their child’s special day. There are many resources out there, so where do you start?
Facebook Groups are one of the best places to get advice or find vendors for your child’s celebration. Be warned that not all Mitzvah Facebook groups are created equally. Some groups only allow vendors, some only allow parents and some allow a mixture of both. Groups that allow both vendors and parents are best, but be careful, because some groups that allow vendors are all advertisements.
Facebook Groups are usually organized by specific geographic areas. However, there is no reason that you shouldn’t join groups in different areas since they will still provide inspiration. Because Mitzvah Planning is similar in most areas, advice from parents and vendors in California would be helpful to parents in New York. Some groups are strict about who is allowed to join, so if you are not accepted, there are lots of other groups. In addition, some groups require you to answer a questionnaire about your intentions or require a sponsor for you to join.
Mitzvah List has compiled a list of the best Facebook groups around. While this is by no means a complete list, these are some of our favorites:
South Florida Bar Mitzvah and Bat Mitzvah Planning Group: By far the largest Bar and Bat Mitzvah Facebook group around with almost 6,000 members! This group was started by David Ockman a/k/a Dr. Mitzvah when planning his son’s Bar Mitzvah. It is now a very active group with tons of parents and vendors involved. The only rule in this group is that you must mention Bar or Bat Mitzvahs in your post and it needs to be Mitzvah related.
Long Island Bar and Bat Mitzvah Planning: With close to 2,000 members, this is a great place to find inspiration, vendors and ask Mitzvah parents planning questions. Started by Randi Lehman, this group has the perfect mix of vendors and parents.
Metro Detroit / Parents of Bar / Bat Mitzvah: The Metro Detroit group has close to 500 members. This is a great place to find ideas, vendors and ask questions. This group was originally started by Michael Weinstein, but is now run by Carrie Krauthamer and Becca Schlussel, two Mitzvah moms and vendors with years of experience and lots of helpful advice.
Highland Park, Deerfield, Northbrook, Glenview & Chicago Bar & Bat Mitzvahs: This new group is a place for parents to ask questions, find vendors and get advice. Although it was created for Chicago Mitzvah Parents, feel free to join this group, ask questions and add to the fun.
Charlotte Bar and Bat Mitzvah Networking Group: This newer group has close to 350 members and is a great source of information. Started by Stephanie Feldman, Mitzvah Mom and vendor, this group is a great place to find unique ideas and advice.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Resources Toronto/Thornhill: The Toronto group has close to 700 members and is a great place for members to share, recommend and give advice. Moderated by Sharon Zadik, vendors and parents are willing to answer all of your mitzvah planning questions.
Top Tips for Bar Mitzvah & Bat Mitzvah Mums and Dads: With over 4500 members and based in the UK, this is a great place to get information on planning a Barmie (what they call Bar and Bat Mitzvahs in the UK). Moderated by Carolyne Klein and Joanna Rosenberg, parents and vendors provide lots of advice and ideas.
Los Angeles Bar & Bat Mitzvah Resources, DIY and Recommendations: The Los Angeles group has over 400 members and is a place to get information on vendors and DIY Projects. Moderated by Claudine Pelc, this group welcomes members from other parts of the country and asks for reviews on vendors they have used online. Their only rule is to be kind to the members.
Atlanta Bar Mitzvah and Bat Mitzvah Planning Group: The Atlanta Group has close to 350 members and is a great resource. This group was started by Stacie Francombe when she was planning her first of three mitzvahs and found it hard to find great ideas and local vendors. This is a great place for parents and vendors to network, share ideas and inspiration.
B’nai Mitzvahs on a Budget: This group has over 200 members and was created as a place to share themes, colors and money saving tips. Moderated by Lisa Huriash and Catherine Catino, this is a great resource for Mitzvah Parents on a budget.
In addition to Facebook groups, Facebook is a great place to find vendors. If you like a vendor, like their page to see other events that they have done. Look at their pictures to get ideas and inspiration. Vendors are usually quick to respond to questions asked on Facebook.
Make sure that you like Mitzvah List on Facebook for lots of planning ideas, tips, advice and articles. Mitzvah List is a great resource for finding vendors too.
Another great place to find ideas for Bar and Bat Mitzvahs is Instagram. If you search the tag #barmitzvah you will find close to 200,000 posts! Similarly, #batmitzvah has over 150,000 posts! Vendors, parents and guests from all over the world have contributed to these hashtags. There are tons of vendors on Instagram too, so if you have a favorite, make sure that you follow their pages.
Pinterest is also an amazing resource and a great place to find and save ideas. If you type in Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah, you could spend days looking at all the ideas. If you are looking for something more specific, type in something specific like Bar Mitzvah Invitations or Bat Mitzvah Décor. Follow boards with ideas you like or save the ideas to your own boards. If you don’t want anyone to know what you are planning, make the boards private so no one but you can see.
Getting advice and ideas from parents who have gone through the process and seasoned vendors is easy (and free) with the help of social media. If you decide to join one of the Facebook groups, ask questions or if you have done it before, share advice with parents who are new to Mitzvah Planning. Don’t forget, it’s a Mitzvah to share your ideas and help others who are in the planning process.